People compare themselves to others who appear to be more confident and successful, then condemn themselves for not ever being able to emulate what they see. The truth of the matter is we really do not know how the other person is really feeling and living.
There are some people who get depressed because of difficulties in their careers or personal relationships. Many of us base our self-esteem on being successful at work, school and in our relationships with others.
While all these ideas have some degree of truth, certainly one’s mood is influenced by one’s body chemistry and by the good and bad things that happen to one. They all have one big disadvantage. They all have a tendency to make one a victim of circumstances beyond one’s control. This is because one cannot ordinarily change one’s body chemistry unless one takes a pill and one certainly cannot change the world or prevent bad things from happening to one from time to time.
There are very few of us, including famous and successful people, who can escape from tragedy and disappointment during our lives. A
Greek philosopher, Epictetus, said ‘Men are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.’
In other words, one’s thoughts and not actual events, create one’s mood. The bad things that happen to us do not really cause us to become upset, rather it is the way we think about these events. Change the negative and retrogressive thoughts that constantly bombard your mind, and appraise your subsequent outcomes of your life.
Only one person in this world can ever make one feel depressed, worried or angry and that person is oneself.
It is the same person who is in control of one’s happiness. This idea can change our lives forever. Change the picture of yourself from the current picture that is not desirable to you now and you will see how some of the events of your life will change.
Life is about perspective and perception. The way you see life that is how you will respond to it.
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